I’m sure all you moms out there are calling out for a quiet moment sometimes. I know I am! My brain is always on overdrive – not always in a negative way, but the wheels are constantly turning.
We have to get our kids to activities, cook dinner, have meetings to go to, and don’t even mention laundry to me! You know the list.
Type A and proud of it – I am always thinking about the next step, the next plan, the next thing. I am so busy thinking, worrying and planning that I am missing the moments that make life great. Are you missing the laughs, smiles, joy, snuggles, peace?
Ever feel like you need some inner peace? Here’s what you can do…
Do some deep breathing. As you’re rushing around, try to catch yourself – even if you do your breathing as you’re prepping lunch, carpooling kids or helping with homework.
The breathing works like this: Inhale for a count of 4, hold it for a count of 4, exhale for a count of 4 and hold for a count of 4. Do this 3-4 times. It’s amazing how clear your mind becomes. You are oxygenating your brain and slowing down your pulse allowing yourself to think more clearly.
My friend Anita taught me this one. This tool brings a calm mind and can also help when I’m not feeling great. I will do this one at any free moment – in the car, when my husband is home with the girls or right when I wake up if I know I’ll have a busy or stressful day. Or, if needed, I’ll make a free moment for myself (more on that later).
It involves recitation of mantras. The first one is , “my mind is quiet.” I will focus on the part of my body – my head, heart, stomach, whatever is causing the stress or symptom and recite this 4-6 time. The next mantra is, “my emotions are calm.” As I recite this one I am breathing deeply and putting all my focus into clearing my head. The last one is like the cool down. I recite, “my body is relaxed.” This is the last step in getting myself ready to face the day or whatever is up next!
This gives your mind a central focus and time for reflection. I find myself forgetting gratitude for all that I am lucky to have. Consistent reflection helps me keep perspective.
I love doing things with my girls (and for my girls). I cherish our time together and love the moments; however, through it all I also know that I need to make a conscious choice to devote some time to my own inner peace. I am lucky enough to have a husband who will help balance our needs and we make an effort to give each other needed time to rejuvenate.
Each morning when I wake up and mentally review my day I will make a conscious choice to decide if I need time or have time to recharge. If and when I decide I do I will do my best to make it happen.
On most days I’m all good or the busyness of the day is not overwhelming. In this case I will use my deep breathing on my car ride to work to keep my mind clear and positive.
On other days my conscious choice will be to give myself time – a half an hour to read a book, go for a run, listen to some of my music, watch some Grey’s or whatever else I need do to turn my brain off for a little bit and give it time to rest and reboot.
Don’t forget yourself during your busy life. It will all still be there after your mental breaks. You will just be better prepared to handle it!